Life: Trying New Things Can Be Scary AF! (…but totally worth it!!)

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Hello friends, I just wanted to stop by and have a little chat about trying new things and embarking on new adventures. So, here’s the thing; 99% of people are nervous about change. The change could be anything from starting a family, changing jobs, moving house, starting a side hustle or even joining a book club or a running group. Have you ever heard the expression ‘Better the devil you know’?. It’s not a great motto to live by, but it’s proof that everyone is nervous of change, because change usually takes you out of your comfort zone and that can be intimidating, nerve-wracking and down-right scary.

Being Scared Doesn’t Make You A Loser!

I used to have a boss who would tell me ‘Kirsty, why are you SO scared of change?!’ like it was a huge weakness in me. But the thing is, I wasn’t SO scared of change, I had a ‘normal’ level of nervousness about certain changes. Especially when the change didn’t come with a period of adjustment, reassurance or even training (#JustSaying!) Sure I get nervous and struggle with imposter syndrome and if something doesn’t feel right, I might say something or try to manage expectations, but is it a weakness?! No! Does it make me a loser? No! And the same goes for you! In hindsight she wasn’t helping me by saying those words to 25 year old me, she was being kinda mean!

You’re Someone Else’s Inspiration

So, here’s the thing, it’s totally normal to be nervous / scared about change, new challenges and taking risks. NORMAL! It’s like hardwired into our brains!!! And in my opinion, once you realise this, it makes things a whole lot less scary. You need to remember that every single person who is killing it, had to start somewhere and probably felt nervous the first time too. A short while later, they found their feet and soon that will be YOU. On the flip side, there’s probably someone looking at you wishing they had the courage to finally take that first step! Babe, you’re their inspiration! 

Learn, Learn, Learn

Most of the time, changes lead to great things, new adventures, more success, new accomplishments. And sometimes…. not so much! Maybe it won’t work the way you hoped it would or it just wasn’t suited to your personality or lifestyle and you wasted a lot of time / energy / money only for it not to work out the way you planned. That sucks. It really does, but hold your head up high and think about all the things you learnt from the experience and all the good things that came out it. The main thing is that you did it and you learnt so much along the way!

Ask For Help and Speak Out About Your Fears

Anyway, my point is, change is scary!!! It’s massively scary and intimidating and nerve-wracking and allll that stuff, but the thing is, EVERYONE feels that way and you are not alone and you’re not a loser! Put one foot in front of the other, drink a lot of coffee, speak out about your fears, ask for help and break down every step into manageable, bitesized tasks to work your way through. A problem shared is always a problem halved and small tasks build up to be one big job. Have faith that something amazing will probably happen and if it doesn’t, remember that you gave it a go, you learnt new things and you’re probably a little stronger and feel a little braver for doing it!

OK! Pep talk is over! Go be awesome and I’ll be back soon!

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  1. June 6, 2019 / 5:51 pm

    YES—New things need not be scary. I go to several of my Christian brothers and sisters (I am one) if something seems borderline dangerous to either my faith or myself. 😀

    • fashionforlunch
      June 7, 2019 / 10:14 pm

      That’s so good! Always trust your gut, and your faith ?

      • fashionforlunch
        June 11, 2019 / 11:17 am

        always xxx

    • fashionforlunch
      June 7, 2019 / 10:13 pm

      You are my inspo! Xxx

  2. June 12, 2019 / 10:32 am

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    • fashionforlunch
      June 12, 2019 / 10:51 am

      Hi Amy, this is a really lovely message. Please feel free to comment back with any questions! xx